"I Don't Know What to Keep" : The Hidden Grief of Going Through a Loved One's Belongings

After the funeral ends and the calls slow down, you're left standing in a room full of their things. Clothing still carrying their scent. Drawers of paper no one has touched. A lifetime in boxes. This is the part no one prepared you for - the emotional weight of sorting through a loved one's life.

What do you keep? What's okay to throw away? Is getting rid of their things a betrayal - or a necessary part of grieving? These aren't just organizing decisions. They're heart wrenching choices filled with guilt, confusion, and exhausion.

Often, families face:

• Paralyzing indecision over what has value and what doesn't

  
  

• Fear of letting go and "losing them all over again"

  
  

• Disagreements among family members, all grieving differently

  
  

• Burnout from the sheer volume of items to sort, clean, donate, or discard

You're not just decluttering a home. You're untangling a web of memory, identity, and grief. And it's okay to feel overwhelmed.

This is why I do what I do. Because no one should have carry this alone. With compassion and care, I help families preserve what matters - and gently let go of what no longer needs to be held.

If you're facing the unimaginable, I'm here to help carry the load. Reach out for a gentle consultation.

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